He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?
First, the church is a family or else what one did in the family wouldn’t really matter. It seems more important that a leader be good in the home than in the business world. The family is built on love and trust, while the business strives for increased profits.
Second, if a potential leader has troubled, disrespectful kids, a church should at least slow down and ask good questions that help it to discern whether there is a problem with this person relationally? This is an opportunity to disciple the leader so they can lead well as they are ready.